“Loving or hating the life you are living is solely all in your repeated self-talk.”― Edmond Mbiaka
Everyone has had those days when we feel a little off, and nothing we do feels quite right. Our unconscious mind takes over by someone we don’t recognize, and our actions follow the same. On these particular days, I have a hard time with my self-talk and the constant stream of low-grade thoughts that pour in and out of my head.
Psychology Today defines self-talk as the inner voice that combines conscious thoughts and unconscious beliefs and biases, to provide a way for the brain to interpret and process daily experiences.
Why is this important?
Well, depending on the quality and quantity of thoughts you have, you can hear from an inner fan that helps you stay motivated or an inner critic that keeps you down.
Self-talk and quality dialogue with others are fundamental ideas that many people, including me, overlook in the day-to-day interactions we have. I have sarcastic friends who say and do negative things out of entertainment, like saying they will drop out of school or talk about how terrible 2020 is. Having specific humor is okay, but regardless of whether you take what people say seriously or not, their words affect your subconscious.
According to Dr. Bruce Lipton, when asked about how the mind is programmed, 90% of our actions are rendered habits that the subconscious runs on based on how we grew up, our moral values, and, most importantly, daily things we say, hear, and do repetitively.
If a person repetitively hears that they are not smart or good enough, their subconscious will eventually imbed that in the mind’s programming and then act accordingly.
So how do we stop these negative thoughts from entering our brain?
Unfortunately, there is no way to control the external forces that plant the seeds of the world’s evil desires, so the most we can do is balance out the negative with thoughts from our creation. It starts with noticing the bad thoughts as they appear and then canceling them out with a positive idea that helps you maintain the ideal version of yourself. Repeating statements like “I got this” can fundamentally change how you feel when approaching obstacles and choose to act.
Fake it til you make it
So what if you don’t believe what you are saying right now? Something called a placebo effect tells us that expectations alone can be strong enough to overcome diseases and afflictions, and self-fulfilling prophecies illustrate how our predictions about a situation influence the outcome. By getting into a repetition of telling yourself that you can be successful in all aspects of your life, you may find that you can handle many more challenges and that you were capable all along.